You hired a wedding planner to get you into the marriage. Nobody tells you there's someone who helps get you out of it.
But there is. And yes, they share a job description with your wedding planner in more ways than you'd think: managing a timeline, coordinating vendors, keeping the paperwork moving, and absorbing the emotional chaos so you can focus on the actual thing happening to your life.
That person is a divorce concierge. Here's what I actually do.
The Three Problems I Solve
Divorce has a paperwork problem, a scheduling problem, and a "who do I even call" problem. Most people hire a lawyer thinking that one hire solves all three. It doesn't.
Your attorney handles the legal filings. They do not track every deadline across every professional on your team. They do not know a good therapist who takes your insurance. They do not help you figure out whether you need a financial analyst before you sit down to negotiate. And they bill you $400 an hour to try.
That's the gap I fill.
What a Divorce Concierge Actually Is
Think of me as the project manager for your divorce. I don't give you legal advice and I'm not your therapist. What I do:
- Manage your timeline and track every deadline so nothing slips
- Organize your documents so when your attorney asks for the 2023 tax return, it's already in the folder
- Refer you to the right attorney, therapist, or Certified Divorce Financial Analyst when you need one (I work with vetted professionals, not a random Google list)
- Sit in the prep meetings with your attorney so you show up ready and don't waste billable hours on logistics
- Handle the "what about the car insurance, the joint Spotify, the Amazon account, the kid's pediatrician paperwork" list that nobody warned you about
The wedding-planner comparison holds up all the way down. I'm the person making sure the right people show up at the right time with the right information, so you can actually be present for a process that already demands everything you have.
What a Divorce Concierge Is Not
Not a lawyer. I don't give legal advice, I don't represent you in court, and Tied & Untied is not a law firm. I coordinate with your attorney. I don't replace one.
Not a therapist. Divorce is a grief process and you probably need one of those too. I'll refer you to a good one. But when you need to process the weight of what's happening, that's a different chair.
What Makes Me Different
I looked at the entire divorce concierge landscape before I built this business. Here's what I found:
Every other concierge stops at referrals. They coordinate, they refer, they hold your hand through the emotional chaos. When it's time to actually prepare the petition, the marital settlement agreement, the parenting plan, the financial affidavit, they hand you off. To a document preparation service. To a law firm. To someone who doesn't already know your case.
I'm the only concierge I've found who also offers document preparation as an option. Emphasis on option.
Doc prep is for a specific kind of case: uncontested, both spouses on the same page, straightforward finances, no domestic violence history. If that's your situation, doing the paperwork through me (instead of through a separate service) is faster and cheaper because I already know your case by the time we get there. Bundling also drops your total by $100.
If your case is not that, you need an attorney and I'll tell you. Complex asset division, contested custody, a spouse who won't cooperate, anything that might end up in front of a judge? You need an attorney. I'll refer you to a good one and keep coordinating from the concierge side.
That's the point of the model: you get one person managing the whole thing, and the right tool for your case, not a sales funnel that pushes everyone through the same door.
Do You Actually Need One?
Honest answer: no, not everyone does.
If you and your spouse agree on everything, you're both reachable and cooperative, and you have the bandwidth to track your own deadlines, you probably don't need a concierge. A strategy session or straight doc prep might be all you need.
If your divorce has any of the following, a concierge earns its fee:
- You're juggling an attorney, a therapist, a financial advisor, and maybe a realtor, and nobody is coordinating between them
- Your spouse handled most of the household logistics and you're figuring out a thousand things from scratch
- You have a demanding job or young kids and no bandwidth to chase paperwork
- You're already overwhelmed and one more deadline is going to break you
The attorney objection to divorce concierges (and yes, some of them are openly against the profession) is that you should just do this yourself because you're an adult. That's fair if you have the time, the emotional space, and the organizational bandwidth. Most people going through a divorce have none of those in abundance.
How It Works at T&U
My concierge retainer is $625 for five hours. That covers a 2-hour intake deep-dive plus three hours of ongoing coordination. After that, it's $125/hour, billed transparently. No surprise invoices. No mystery retainer that disappears.
Unused hours get refunded after your Final Judgment. If you abandon the process or ghost me for three months, the hours roll off, but that's it.
You also get:
- Phone and text access during working hours
- Attorney, therapist, and CDFA referrals from my vetted list
- Custom checklists built around your specific case
- Someone who will tell you when you're about to make a decision you'll regret for years
I come to you. Your office, your kitchen, a beach, a bar. Wherever you can actually think.
The One Thing I Want You to Know
Divorce is not a failure of character. It's a logistical and emotional event that most people are not equipped to handle alone, and there is nothing weak or lazy about getting help to move through it with your sanity intact.
You are allowed to not do this by yourself.
If you're not sure whether a concierge or a strategy session or just doc prep is right for your situation, book a free 10-minute consult and I'll tell you straight. I'd rather send you to the right service than sell you on something you don't need.
